my MIL threw a in shape that she never ever sees the newborn, i just began carrying out my residency, so my husband informed her she can observe the newborn although i am gone, my husband functions evening-shift
my principles were
1-she watches him right here (her property is a disaster & not near to currently being newborn proof)
two-she keeps him on his timetable, it is on the wall on a massive dry/erase board, his nap time, his meal instances, his bath times, his story occasions, his spanish instances, his outside occasions, his snack instances-what he gets for snacks & meals) and so forth. I even make his food in the morning, set it in a container for her to have for him to try to eat (she can't cook)
three-no television
that's it, so anyway she's been observing him for a tiny above a month now, for the duration of this time i have had the most difficult time dealing with him, he tries to bite now (he has eight teeth in the front), he fights me when it arrives to taking his cup (he was consuming from a small cup with handles, but he was off the sippy cup), most of the time he won't even consider his cup at all, he throws tantrums, he doesn't want to play with his toys, he fusses all the time, he's cranky, most of all he doesn't want to eat for me, at all, no matter what i try out to feed him
so my pal was over here last wed & she commented on how he's throwing tantrums & acting out, how he's various, so i informed her some of what is going on, she mentioned it may possibly be the separation of currently being absent from me, but i was leaving him to go to class so he's utilised to that
so she told me to set up her nanny digital camera to see what is really heading on, (she had a nanny that was stealing from her, she bought this spy digital camera program lead to she stored obtaining income & jewelry arrive up missing & her nanny lived with her, anyway she bought them to see what was heading & discovered out that it was her nanny) so i set three cameras up, one particular in his play room, one in the kitchen & one in the residing space
wow!!!! she offers the infant a bottle instead of his cups, she was dumping his foods that i made to make it simpler on her out in the trash, she in no way gave him a cup nor did she check out to feed him, she just kept providing him bottles, he was in his swing all day viewing tv, she set him in his play area five min ahead of i was suppose to arrive property, she altered him 1x in 5 several hours, i was past angry
so i showed it to my husband friday & he stated she almost certainly had a undesirable day & the bottles ended up there so she didn't even assume about not giving him a single, but i suggest she took the baby's bottles out of the box in the closet exactly where they are packed away, so that was rather deliberate, it is not like the bottles are in the kitchen wherever she can easily get them
he dismissed all this as not a large deal she was possessing an off day, so sat i asked her to observe the newborn so we could go out for a although, she did the exact same factor all about again, so i showed my husband the tape & pointed out that Thursday, Friday & Saturday she did the identical issue even though i asked her did the infant try to eat all of his (whichever) these days & she explained yes & i asked her if she did all the scheduled things & once more she said yes, my husband says i'm overreacting & that it is not a big deal that she's doing this things, even though she obviously knows it's wrong cause she washes the bottle she utilizes prior to i get residence & puts i back in the box
our newborn is a yr aged & we pay her like we would anybody else, we pay out her $ 800 a month, she works three days a week, Wed, Thurs & Fri, if we ask her to watch him an additional day we give her $ 50 that day, & she only watches him for three hours that is it,
my husband has always sided with his mom more than me, even when she's rude to me, he says that is just the way she is, i even asked the dr in front of my husband monday if offering the baby a bottle now that he is broke from them could regress him & he said sure, that we really should in no way go backwards only ahead, then i asked if offering him a bottle as an alternative of food was a great idea, of program he mentioned no, but my husband still says i am overreacting,
so mom's am i just above reacting? or do i have a proper to be angry about this? how would you handle this? the office i'm undertaking my residency for offers daycare for the staff no cost, so it's not like we need her watching the baby, nor is it more affordable to pay her to observe him than put him in the daycare, so what would you do? how do i get my husband to see that his mother is not helping our son at all?
generally i only perform 3 hours, but 2 days now i've gotten stuck working five hours sorry need to have added that
stardancer i'm so sorry that is happening to you, no i'm lucky in that factor my husband adores me, except he usually requires his mom's side, but he does adore me
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Reply by acker-j
she seems out of hand, sounds like a slacker!! m-i-l's such a conundrum. the daycare at your office would be Simpler? - !! - desire it functions out. the latest predicament is intolerable
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