my MIL threw a in shape that she never sees the newborn, i just began doing my residency, so my husband advised her she can observe the child even though i'm gone, my husband performs night-shift
my principles had been
1-she watches him right here (her home is a catastrophe & not close to being infant proof)
2-she retains him on his agenda, it's on the wall on a massive dry/erase board, his nap time, his meal times, his bath occasions, his story occasions, his spanish times, his outdoors instances, his snack instances-what he will get for snacks & meals) and so forth. I even make his food in the early morning, put it in a container for her to have for him to eat (she can't cook)
3-no television
that's it, so anyway she's been viewing him for a tiny more than a month now, in the course of this time i have had the most difficult time dealing with him, he tries to bite now (he has 8 teeth in the front), he fights me when it arrives to taking his cup (he was drinking from a little cup with handles, but he was off the sippy cup), most of the time he won't even get his cup at all, he throws tantrums, he doesn't want to play with his toys, he fusses all the time, he's cranky, most of all he doesn't want to try to eat for me, at all, no make any difference what i check out to feed him
so my pal was above right here previous wed & she commented on how he's throwing tantrums & acting out, how he's various, so i informed her some of what's heading on, she said it may well be the separation of currently being away from me, but i was leaving him to go to class so he's utilised to that
so she informed me to place up her nanny digital camera to see what is really heading on, (she had a nanny that was stealing from her, she bought this spy camera technique result in she kept getting cash & jewellery occur up lacking & her nanny lived with her, anyway she bought them to see what was going & identified out that it was her nanny) so i set 3 cameras up, a single in his play area, one particular in the kitchen & 1 in the dwelling place
wow!!!! she provides the child a bottle rather of his cups, she was dumping his foods that i made to make it simpler on her out in the trash, she never ever gave him a cup nor did she try to feed him, she just kept providing him bottles, he was in his swing all day observing television, she place him in his play room 5 min prior to i was suppose to occur house, she changed him 1x in 5 hrs, i was beyond angry
so i showed it to my husband friday & he said she almost certainly had a negative day & the bottles have been there so she didn't even think about not providing him one particular, but i suggest she took the baby's bottles out of the box in the closet in which they are packed away, so that was quite deliberate, it's not like the bottles are in the kitchen area exactly where she can quickly get them
he dismissed all this as not a big offer she was obtaining an off day, so sat i asked her to observe the baby so we could go out for a whilst, she did the very same thing all more than once again, so i showed my husband the tape & pointed out that Thursday, Friday & Saturday she did the same point even even though i asked her did the infant eat all of his (what ever) right now & she said yes & i asked her if she did all the scheduled stuff & yet again she explained sure, my husband says i'm overreacting & that it is not a big deal that she's doing this things, even although she obviously is aware it's incorrect cause she washes the bottle she utilizes before i get home & puts i back in the box
our infant is a 12 months aged & we pay out her like we would anyone else, we shell out her $ 800 a month, she functions three days a week, Wed, Thurs & Fri, if we ask her to check out him an additional day we give her $ fifty that day, & she only watches him for three hrs that is it,
my husband has usually sided with his mom above me, even when she's rude to me, he says that's just the way she is, i even asked the dr in front of my husband monday if offering the baby a bottle now that he is broke from them could regress him & he mentioned indeed, that we should never go backwards only ahead, then i asked if offering him a bottle rather of food was a great notion, of course he said no, but my husband nonetheless says i'm overreacting,
so mom's am i just over reacting? or do i have a right to be angry about this? how would you manage this? the workplace i am undertaking my residency for offers daycare for the employees free, so it's not like we require her watching the infant, nor is it less costly to shell out her to view him than put him in the daycare, so what would you do? how do i get my husband to see that his mother is not aiding our son at all?
that's the issue about the daycare offered by the dr's workplace i am performing my residency at, all the employees have teaching degrees, as well as i can invest my breaks with him, it really is three hrs that is it.
typically i only work three hrs, but 2 days now i've gotten stuck working 5 hrs
my husband agreed to spend her result in she gave him a sob tale about interrupting her daily life & her costs so he mentioned great, even although she's retired & his dad is a retired col. so they have plenty of cash.
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Reply by Rae's Momma
You are not about reacting at all. I'd indicate that video clip to her then tell her she's in no way babysitting yet again. Is there a daycare wherever you're undertaking your residency?
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